Life is certainly not what I thought it would look like at age forty. 

There are certainly pros:

– healthy children                                          -a lovely house                     -organic produce and fizzy water

And, there are cons:

– I am in a parental partnership with my husband whom I am no longer romantically involved with.

‘A whaaaat?’

I live under the same roof with the man that I happily married over a decade ago, yet we are no longer together in any romantic way. We sleep in separate rooms, are free to date, and have little idea of what is going on in the other’s personal life, but I still buy him grapefruit juice, do his laundry, and brush my teeth while he showers. 

No one gets married with the notion that it might all crumble within a decade or less. I suppose some couples sign prenups, which are generally recognized as being unromantic. But I believe the vast majority of us go into marriage with blind optimism. Despite the high divorce statistics, and regardless if our own parents divorced, when its our turn to fall in love and get married, we genuinely think that as a couple, we will be different. Somehow, our marriage will remain strong.

And many marriages will.

Mine, unfortunately will not.